Healing A Broken Heart

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When I came to House of Hope, I was struggling to overcome a broken heart from infidelity in my marriage. I was devastated. I felt torn because I knew that I still loved my husband but I didn’t know if I could forgive him.  From that despair came a whole range of emotions: anger, jealousy, and a feeling of “I’m not good enough”.

I knew I didn’t want to stay in that state of anger and bitterness. I realized how important forgiveness would be – I would be free if I could forgive. I went to California to visit my daughter and she said to me, “You have to do something. I am not sending you back to Iowa unless you have a plan of action.”

I had taken a few classes at House of Hope and started therapy with Bev. I thought I would like to try the Immerse program, but I wasn’t sure I could afford it.  My daughter asked what it would cost and she said, “My sisters and I are going to get our heads together and make this work.  Because you have always told us when we get together there is nothing we can’t do. We are going to make this work!”

When I checked in to House of Hope I was torn with anger, resentment, and sadness. I hadn’t done anything wrong but I was the one who had to leave
my home and my family.  I doubted whether the program was going to help, but I stayed and gave it a chance.

I knew I needed a retreat and space to work on me.  I took advantage of classes, therapy, Ultimate Journey, and the community surrounding me at House of Hope. The Ultimate Journey was painful and intense, but I learned so much from it.  It continues to help me as I work through the recent death in my family. I have given myself the space to process pain, leading me to new growth in my life.  It’s been unbelievable. I wouldn’t be where I am without House of Hope. It helped me to walk the stages of grief and not get stuck.  I have come to a place of loving my husband as a human being, to ally with him, and be a source of support.  It’s helped me to forgive him. My heart has healed, and I have a community of women who support one another.  I am aligning my thoughts, words and deeds so they are pleasing to My Father in Heaven.

“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10

To the women in need of support, do whatever you can to make support happen.  When you are in despair, there is nowhere else to go. There is so much that will come from the work you do at House of Hope. Make interpersonal connections, get professional help, and surround yourself with a sisterhood who cares. Take advantage of the classes and get involved in all the community has to offer.